Selfie is Self Love

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2013 was a transformative year for me. I launched my website and I’m starting to work towards my life long dream of a clothing line. As this year comes to an end I find myself relflecting on the things that have past and looking forward to the things to come. One word that was every where  this year was Selfie. Some people love taking selfies, some people loathe it. Me, I love taking them! Howerver I wasn’t always as camera happy as I am today.

There was a time in my life when I was very insecure. It was due to the aftermath of a relationship that ended because he thought I was too fat for him. Mind you we had been dating for over a year, we knew each other’s families,  and in what I thought was love. He said he could not take me seriously because of my weight. And so he gave me  an ultimatum. Either I lose weight or lose him. Even though I loved this man, even though I wanted to spend the rest of my life with him,  and even though I didn’t want to lose him, deep down in my heart I knew what he was asking wasn’t right. I knew that wasn’t real love. And so I decided to let him go.
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Attitude is Everything!

Change your thoughts

It’s funny how some people have assumed that whenever I have an issue with someone, thing, or place, it always boils down to me being insecure. It’s usually people who don’t know me very well or only on the surface level that assume this. I’ve always wondered why that’s the first thing they would say, but I don’t spend too much time wondering about it. After all, I would be doing the same thing they are doing, assuming. And I’d rather not have an in depth conversation with someone who thinks I’m insecure, trying to figure out why they think I’m insecure, because that’s a little well…insecure. All I can do is move on with my life from such claims and continue to do what I do best, smile.

With that being said since launching my blog I’ve gotten many questions from my readers asking me how I am secure and confident. I wish there was some magical pill that one could take to gain such things. Even though I am not licensed to, I would prescribe said drug to all my readers who need a little boost. But since I stopped my traditional psychology education at the bachelors’ level and I am nowhere near allowed to prescribe prescription pills, I’ll just have to give you guys a dosage of my personal mantra. And that is that everything you do in this life is a choice, and you can choose to be happy or you can choose the opposite.  Your thoughts and attitude are everything! In my first post I discussed the importance of confidence, which you can read more about here. If confidence is your best fashion accessory then feeling secure is your exclusive high end label.

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Fall Into Change

As the weather changes so do our clothing and makeup choices. Luckily with fashion it’s very easy to make a change.  If you’re in a sexy mood throw on your little black dress. Feeling rocker chic then pair your outfit with some studded accessories. Regardless of what is inspiring you on a given day, your wardrobe is a result of the season you’re in.

Personally fall is my favorite of the four seasons. I gladly embrace the opportunity to wear, cardigans, blazers, and high waisted pencil skirts, just to name a few.

Look 1Blazer – Torrid (Similar) 

Skirt – Jibri Online (Sold Out)

Shoes – J. Renee

Belt – Asos Curve

Purse and Necklace – Forever 21

For this look I wanted to be corporate chic and went with a royal blue high waisted pencil skirt paired with a bold yet warm burgundy lip color, and gold accessories.

Look 2

Royal blue a color that was hot last season is still going strong for Fall 2013

Cardigans, pencil skirts, and blazers are just a few of the things that are all staples in my wardrobe during this time of year.

Inspired by the changes occurring throughout nature I switched up my makeup as well.

 

Look 3Lipstick – Retro Matte Fixed on Drama by Mac

Fashion wise falling into the changes that autumn brings is quite simple. However why is it that when it comes to embracing changes in our lives  it’s not as simple?

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How To Survive In The Fashion World

Hi Ladies and Gentlemen,

With all of the fashion advice available from the ubiquitous “wearing black is slimming” to the offensive “skinny jeans aren’t for curvy girls”. I thought I’d add my two cents to the mix. However it’s really hard to pick just one fashion tip. I mean in a world where options are a necessity, opinions come a dozen, and information is plentiful it just seems impossible to narrow anything down to just one. What is the number one about anyways? It’s lonely without the company of two, it’s singular and is all about itself! If you ask me one sounds SELF-ish….

And that’s when it hit me! Like the Holy Ghost Spirit at church the Sunday right after a night of clubbing. The revelation of one. One is about me. One is about you. It’s about yourself. The revelation released a rejoicing as if I were dancing in the church aisle. Before any of the clothes come on, any face gets beat, and any hair did, one AKA you are all you start and end with. Hallelujah!

With that being said my fellow curvy ladies if I had to provide you with just one fashion tip of the day it would be to go into each and every day loving yourself and being confident about who YOU are NOW. None of that when I lose X amount of weight, or get X amount of money, or find the perfect partner. You have to start loving yourself as you are, in all of your glory, right now, today. When you love yourself you exude confidence and no matter what you’re wearing better believe you will look damn good in it!

If you’re wondering what you can do to start loving yourself more, here’s a tip that should have you feeling more confident and self-loved in no time. This information was provided by The Well Being Alignment.

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